Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts

Thursday, 4 June 2015

How To Cope With A Job You Hate

Unless you're extraordinarily lucky, you've probably had an awful job at some point. Maybe it was a fine job to start out with but things took a turn later. Maybe it was the only job going and you had to take it but hated every moment. Perhaps you're waiting on tables and scrubbing cutlery whilst applying for something better morning, noon and night. It's a truly tough thing to handle when you're trapped in a job that you cannot stand. Never fear! If you're heading to work, shoulders hunched, carrying your briefcase as you cast your weary gaze to the ground then read over some of these suggestions. As someone who previously got out of a job I hated, I'd been trying to do whatever I could to find something better and would advise anyone else to do the same.



  • See what you can get out of your current job. Try to make the most of what you have in the moment. If you've got to be there, make it work for you. If you're working at the bottom of a large company, try to take on more responsibilities and make yourself useful. It could lead to a promotion which you could use when applying for other jobs. It could make you look more impressive when you go into interviews if you can show that you're up for taking on new tasks and making the most of your time in a job.
  • See if you could be transferred to a different role, department or location/branch of the company. It offers some security whilst also changing your situation and surroundings. 
  • If your job is dull, and you yourself are a creative person, find ways to make the day less dull. Perhaps this is to introduce office games to get people to be more competitive in their work environment. 
  • Maybe you're in a job you hate not because you hate the work, but because you hate the people or the way you're treated. If you're being mistreated at work you do not have to accept it. Find out how to lodge complaints and don't be afraid to speak up about what you're experiencing. Join a union. Find the courage to speak up. Is your supervisor singling you out? Speak to a manager. Does your manager mess around the staff? Speak to the rest of your co-workers and, if they feel the same, make a plan of action because you' together are probably stronger than your manager. 
  • Utilise your lunch break. Are you working a job to pay bills, but have secret dreams of becoming a writer or and artist or something you so rarely have time to pursue? Harness your break time and try to put it towards all the other stuff you want to achieve but neglect. Write your novel over your lunch time tune bagel. Look at improv classes you could attend and work on some material whilst you wait for the barista to bring over your coffee. Don't let those spare moments of the day go by and become utterly wasted. Finding balance is important. Work towards the thing you've always wanted to do in the scraps of spare time you're given. 
  • NETWORK. Go out into the world and boast your skills and see if someone takes interest in your passions and skills. Often, in the world of work, it's about who you know. 
  • Hate your job? Why not look into cutting your hours and working part time there and getting a different part time job elsewhere? If it's a possibility then it means you're halving your time spent in a negative space. Who knows? Something could come from that other part time job. It adds another place of employment to your CV and boosts future employability.
  • Until recently, I myself was in a job that I loathed. My co-workers and I were all unhappy and we banded together in the knowledge that we all could do better and were wasting our time chasing pennies on a minimum wage job that treated us like dirt with management that actually bullied us and made us feel awful. Despite all we did to try to improve things there, nothing ever changed. What happened next was beautiful. We all rallied together to help each other find new jobs that suited our skills and interests and within two months a third of us had new, better jobs that actually made us happy. We're all still helping the others to get out into new jobs. Things then became interesting. The sudden 'abandon ship' movement made our management team see that, perhaps they were doing something wrong. They began trying to reach out and offer whatever they could to the members of staff that they still had left, but it was too late. Those that are still there are soon to be on the way out. Many have interviews and apprenticeships lined up. By next month, half of their staff will have gone and they are currently having to scrape around to find roughly seven new staff members. If you work somewhere in which it is universally loathed by the staff, realise that you are stronger as a team and your management team need you more than you need them. Think back on the protests of McDonalds workers who rallied together to ask for a raise of their minimum wage. You are always stronger when united as a team than as individuals. If you all hate your jobs, join together to see how you can all change to fix it.  Our management may not have cared too much about us, but thankfully we all cared enough about each other.
  • Consider a full turn around. Work in your loathed job for as long as you can stick it and quit. Then go work abroad and completely change your surroundings. I know that this option isn't always affordable or possible for people, but changing your surroundings may be the therapeutic change that you need. 
  • For every day you have to go to work at a job you dislike, apply for three jobs. If there aren't a lot of jobs in your area then try to do three things that could help you achieve any other goals or dreams that could lead to something more for you. Always wanted to write a novel? Write a chapter each day. Dream of recording a CD on the side? Each day, spend thirty minutes writing music. For every day you have to turn up for a job that doesn't satisfy you, try to seek out ways to pursue something that WILL satisfy you.
If you've read this because you're currently stuck in a job you hate then I wish, from the bottom of my heart, that you find a better career soon.

Wednesday, 31 December 2014

Silver Linings Search: December!

Here we are at the end of the year. I cannot believe that this is it. The year has gone by so fast. I've been doing this, noting the good things from throughout the month, since January. I began doing this as an exercise in positive thinking. I wanted to somehow record the good things that happen in the month to preserve them. In doing so I do not allow them to be overshadowed by the bad things that happen.

I'll put together a little post with a collection of all of my silver linings search posts so I have a collection of all the good things that the year has brought me. I'll see what I can remember and what still stays with me.


  • I booked two weeks off this month from work as paid holiday. From November 30th - December 14th I had time to just chill and work on things that I wanted to work on. 
  • For my hard work my boss gave me two tickets to see my favourite play which was super sweet.
  • I went to a really cool party and ate free food and danced the night away. What more do you want?
  • December 14th was my partner's birthday and we 
  •  I finally dyed my hair blue! I've been wanting blue hair since my final year of university and I never got around to it. Once I got the okay from my boss I just went for it. I mixed a blue and a green and I just love it!
  • After a meeting at work, I went out for breakfast with some of my lovely co-workers. We had a lot of laughs and then went to see a movie. It was lovely. 
  • I spent a lovely few days with my partner. There was one day where for about 6 hours we didn't leave my room. We just snuggled down and hid from the cold for a six hour cuddle.
  • Christmassy vibes! It all began on the 6th of December when we put up the tree, decorated it and threw Christmas ornaments everywhere. Suddenly the house was filled with candles and wreaths. Beautiful!
  • I exercised my baking/cooking skills and I managed to make some delicious onion relish and goat cheese puff pastry things. They were wonderful. 
  • I also did some chocolate crafting and made loads of yummy treats. I had to test them for poison before I gave them to people. Yes. That was the best part.
  • On December 8th I got to see my sister perform in a Christmas concert full of great music and winter favourites. That's when it started to feel Christmassy
  • I got to spend some real quality time with my sister and we had the opportunity to just talk this month.
  • My Dad and I went on a long walk which enabled me to spend some quality time with him too. We got up early one morning and walked through the forest and got a coffee together. I love spending time with my Dad and that afternoon is/was precious to me. 
  • I got to spend some lovely time with my partner too. I especially loved having one or two really lazy days where we just worked on our laptops in bed and put no make up on and cuddled. Perfect. 
  • I performed in a variety show where I sang 'Let It Go' from Frozen. It's probably a sin but, as I write this, I still have not seen Frozen. That said, I did my best to fill the role of a Disney Princess. 
  • CHRISTMASSSSSSSS! Yes, Christmas day gets an entire bullet point.
  • I love the general vibe of the month of December: everyone is so charitable and merry. It warms my heart!
  • I got to spend Christmas day with my beautiful partner for the first time ever. We've previously spent Christmas with our respective families but she joined me for Christmas. We opened presents together and went to visit my aunt/uncle/cousins together. It was the best!
  • I got so many rad Christmas presents. I am stocked up on books for the next few months. I'm so happy.
  • I spent Boxing Day with my partner and my future mother/father in law and we feasted. Then I curled up and read a book by the fire. Is that not perfection?
  • The day after Boxing Day I went to a really swish but laid back dinner party. I had prawn cocktail three days in a row - no complaints. It was delicious. I've eaten like a Queen this month.

Sunday, 28 December 2014

One Year Of Silver Linings

This past year I've been making monthly lists and posting them on this blog. The lists detail good things that happened within that month. If anything, it has really taught me the importance of seeking out goodness. It has made me a more positive person. It means I also, at the end of the year, have a really positive review of what happened in the past 12 months.

Sure, bad things happen. They stick out. You remember them. This year I lost my beloved dog, Hamish. My cat and writing sidekick, Chelsea, became unwell and had to be put down. There are plenty of crappy things that happened this year. That's why its so important to remember the good: it contrasts the bad and if you don't hone in on it, it will get overshadowed by the bad. I definitely think I'll keep doing these posts in the next year. I'd urge you to do them to whether it be on a blog or just a notebook in your home. Focus on the good and let it lead you form day to day.

Sunday, 30 November 2014

Silver Linings Search: November

Hello lovelies!

Over the past year I've been recording all the little moments of good that happen in my month and the year is almost over! There's a real possibility that I'll continue these posts in 2015 - just as long as I remember to update. Here are the good things that happened this month:


  • I got to go to a private screening of Interstellar. It was a midnight screening on the day of the release. We all got to go in once the cinema had been locked, all in our onesies and pyjamas, and had such a crazy, awesome time. We had an 80s dance party in the run up to midnight it was brilliant.
  • I had an interview for a graduate job and was one of the final two that was considered for the position
  • I was called back for a second interview where I feel I seriously impressed the man interviewing me. Fingers crossed!
  • My partner and I took a day to just mess around and watch movies with my sister which was fun.
  • Driving through the forest with my loved ones singing along to Smells Like Teen Spirit by Nirvana
  • A show I'm in really took shape. I even whipped up a solo in half an hour, two rehearsals before the actual show went to the stage.
  • I made an attempt at NaNoWriMo. An attempt.
  • I took up a lot of extra hours last month and they paid off this month on pay day. Wow. 
  • I also got a bonus from work. I don't get it til next pay day but still, it'll be a nice little extra in my pay packet. Huzzah!
  • I was contacted and straight up offered another job. They'd selected me from my skills. I am fortunate enough to be in the position where I was able to respectfully decline as I move to savour my time for other projects. That said, it's great to be considered. 
  • One of my close friends came to visit all the way from Leeds. Although it was a quick trip it was good just to see her face and catch up quickly. 
  • My partner got a slight promotion at work which will look great on her CV and provide decent job security.
  • I've lost a bit of weight - brilliant!
  • I got to see my gorgeous partner graduate from university which was a wonderful, truly special moment.
  • My partner and I travelled up to Huddersfield for the graduation so I had just under 24 hours in the wonderful town I spent three years in. It was great! We spent time doing typical Huddersfield things from eating and drinking at our old haunts to shopping for silly items. 
  • Shopping: I bought some gorgeous things this month from faux fur boots to a new handbag.
  • I got to see many friends of mine - old and new! It was a quick trip but it was so good just to see their faces. 
  • November: the month of reduced price Halloween goodies!
  • My holiday started at the end of the month. From December 30th I have two weeks off work to get stuff done!

Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Silver Linings Search: September

Wow, the year is flying by like crazy. I was working so much this month that I sort of forgot to add to this blog as time went on but I have tried. This month went by in an absolute flash. Honestly, I am writing this on the 25th of September and I swear the 1st of September was only last night...
How bizarre. Because of how much I worked, I neglected the blog a little and although it was a good month, I didn't really log as much goodness as I have previously. It's entirely my fault, I guess, but it means that this post is a lot shorter than some of the previous posts. I'll make sure to focus more in October.
Oh well - here's my little list of good things that happened throughout the month.

  • A new manager took over where I work and instantly we saw positive change. He's honestly making it a better place to work and treats us like human beings.
  • I worked a lot therefore I earned a lot. Always good. I'm currently saving up for a future holiday.
  • I saw some good films. I saw some awful films too, but I made quite a few cinema trips this month.
  • I've taken on some more responsibilities at work which puts me in good standing for future promotions. That said, I'm not sure I'll still be around by the time they're hiring. We shall see...
  • I booked off some holiday time for October and will plan and book further holiday and maybe go somewhere nice.
  • I wrote. I managed to write a little bit. Sure, that's not much but it's something.
  • My partner and I went into London to see Miranda Sings. If you don't know who Miranda Sings is, she's a YouTube personality created by Colleen Ballinger. Miranda Sings is a spoiled singer with an inflamed ego and her warbling voice and foibles reduce me to tear-soaked laughter. The show was great - we even spotted Louis Cole and Alfie Deyes in the crowd!
  • My partner and I had a wonderful day out in London where we visited the Science Museum and the Natural History Museum. The Natural History Museum is, to me at least, one of the most beautiful buildings in existence. I spent a good deal of time just standing in the Hintze Hall admiring the detail in the architectural structure. It was a marvellous day.
  • I met up with an old friend for drinks and a walk in the forest. It was brief but it was good.
  • Some exciting plans were made for the future.
  • I've started some serious planning which will mean I get to travel before the end of the year
  • My partner started her new job and I'm honestly so, so proud of her. This is a really big step for us as a couple and her earnings will be saved up for our future. 
  • My partner and I took my mother out for drinks and we all had the chance to chat and bond over a bottle of wine.

Monday, 8 September 2014

Motivational Monday: Keep Moving Forward

We all get the that awful point where we want to throw in the towel. We feel like we're not achieving the things we want to be achieving. We're not going the places we want to be going. This could be with our careers, our personal lives. I think sometimes we don't realise all of the little things we do and how valid it is just to keep going. Sure, we may not be getting the rewards we seek right now but as long as you keep going that's admirable.

Sometimes you've got to remind yourself that just moving forward can be enough.
It is enough.

Thursday, 4 September 2014

Silver Linings Search: August

Oops! This post is coming a few days late but better late than never, right?

Goodness, the year is literally whizzing past! I'm glad I've been keeping a record of the nice things from this year. I think I'll continue it into 2015. If you're a regular to this blog then you know the drill... I write down and document little positive things from the past month to remind myself that good things happen.


  • A few strangers said things to me that made me realise there is better out there for me and it really changed my perspective on things. It has pushed me to re-focus my aims and career prospects. 
  • I've been writing again and jotting down ideas whilst outlining writing plans for the next few years of my life. I really love having a plan and having ambition. 
  • I finished reading Bird Box by Josh Malerman this month and OH MY GOODNESS, YOU HAVE TO READ IT. This book HAS to be a movie. Soon. Please, world.
  • *cough* Also, Josh Malerman liked one of my tweets which means he knows that I exist.
  • Oh, and then I found out that a Bird Box movie is in the works. Thank you, Jesus!
  • We threw a great farewell party for an old friend. My partner whipped up a feast, spending the entire day cooking, and created a marvellous meal, including the best Yorkshire puddings I've ever had.
  • My partner and I had the opportunity to take care of the cutest, cuddliest little dog. Since my dog passed away in February I've missed puppy cuddles.
  • ANNE RICE READ MY FREAKING BLOG. SHE SHARED A LINK TO IT ON HER PAGE! ANNE RICE HAS BEEN ON THIS BLOG! Seriously, I'm still not over it. She's one of my idols as a writer and as a human being.
  • I went out and bought little random things like mugs, home ornaments, books, scented candles. Some are things for when I have my own home, others are for now. I do love a little bit of retail therapy.
  • I bought a ton of awesome books.
  • My partner and I joined the band Bad Pollyanna on their London leg of The Punishment Tour with William Control. Bad Pollyanna are a great band and are friends of ours from up North. It was so great to see them again. We offered to turn up and sell their merchandise and hopefully managed to make them some money. We also got into the gig for free. I hope William Control remembered me from out last meeting...
  • We rescued some lovely ex battery hens. We've been rehoming rescued hens for years but these are by far the worst we've ever taken in. They came to us practically de-feathered, their skin irritated and red. They're all coming along so well and, in time, I hope they'll be wonderful additions to our chicken community. 
  • One morning, my partner woke me up with breakfast in bed like when we just had started dated. Wonderful <3
  • I did a huge clear out of my room and got rid of some old clothes and stuff lying around. Clearing out old stuff sometimes can be really cathartic. 
  • In the cleaning process I managed to find some good MAC Cosmetics make up that I'd never used but put away last Christmas. Suddenly I had lots of good, expensive make up like a gift from my past self.
  • I met some rather heart wrenchingly wonderful people whilst at work. They opened up and told me their stories and really inspired me. I managed to give them gifts to take away with them. I know it won't fix the things they're struggling with but it was the least that I could do. Both encounters were truly humbling experiences. 
  • I set up a romantic Scavenger Hunt for my partner which lead us both around the places we visited in the weeks running up to the day we became a couple. It was quite cute and really romantic and reminded us of how much love we have for each other.
  • I finally met my partner's granny who was lovely and gave us her blessing. It was really important to my partner that I meet her grandmother and I'm so glad that I did. She's such a strong, loving woman who always marched to the beat of her own drum. These qualities, I feel, have been passed down to my partner. 
  • Two different people asked me out on dates. It was very sweet, and although I had to turn them down as I'm already taken, I found it all very flattering. 
  • I got to spend some quality time with my father. We went to see a lot of films together. I went with him to a football game. We took a tour around Camden. We went to an art exhibition.
  • My father and I went to 512 Hours, the Marina Abramovic exhibition. It was such a wonderful experience. If you want to see my review of it, it's up on The Huffington Post website. 
  • I started writing short stories again. Yay!
  • I received some lovely gifts from my family including some beautiful silver earrings from my cousin Wilma who visited all the way from New Zealand. I did feel a little bit spoiled and thankful for such a wonderful and supportive family.
  • I got callbacks for some jobs!
  • I've lost a wee bit of weight. I'm looking good. No, I don't feel that is a big-headed thing to say. I get to love my body and celebrate my progress. 
  • I started preparing for NaNoWriMo. I'm hoping I can get a novel done by the end of the year. I don't know why it scares me so much.

Saturday, 9 August 2014

Silver Lining Search: July

So here we are on the ongoing quest for positivity. I've got to be honest, I worked a lot in July and so I forgot to add to this post as the month went by so it'll be a little more brief than usual but hey - I didn't forget and at least I tried. Also, yes, it's a little late but obviously I've been working about 6 days a week so I'm behind on a lot of things. Oh well, here are my silver linings:

  • I had the chance to hang out with some old friends I'd not seen in ages.
  • I spent some of the vouchers I'd won at work. I bought Birdbox by Josh Malerman. So far it is one of the best books I've read this year.
  • It was my anniversary with my beloved!
  • My partner and I headed out to celebrate our anniversary in London. We had a walk around Camden and then saw a play. The play we saw was The Crucible with Richard Armitage as John Proctor. It was such a wonderful and ambitiously dark performance and we both loved it. For dinner we found a beautiful little Italian restaurant and curled up with each other to wind down.
  • I had a real heart to heart with my supervisor and I think he's now aware of how he treats his staff. I think that perhaps all it took was one person standing/speaking up for the rest of the team. Any progress is good progress.
  • I took part in Camp NaNoWriMo and, even though I won't be finishing the novel this month, it sets me up well for November. Yes, I'll be doing NaNoWriMo in November as well!
  • I had a big job interview. The job was way over my head but the fact that I was even considered for it was huge for me. 
  • I've really bonded with my co-workers this month inside and outside of work itself. We had a great night out and a lot of fun. I'll be sad when I have to leave.
  • The sun came out... The sun everywhere makes life better.
  • I entered a big competition to win the trip of a lifetime. Let's just hope I win it...

Sunday, 27 July 2014

Achievements

So I've been thinking a lot lately about the idea of achievements and aspirations: the things we want to do before we die, the things we wish to be known for. Job interviews have forced me to really try and figure out the path ahead of me. I never had a clear, rigic career plan. I just have these vague aspirations, a giant check list with things waiting to be ticked off. I've had some wonderful experiences so far, even just in the past ten years of my life. Maybe it's because I'm back in the perpetual job hunt which prompts me to constantly talk about myself and reconsider my achievements.

I've worked for a radio station from being a show host to being the head of PR and Marketing. I landed my first publishing deal at the age of 21 and was published by age 22. I've been in music videos for bands and artists that I love. I've been on TV several times. I graduated university with a 2:1 degree. It's time to tun my mind to the things that come next. So here I'm going to take a moment to outline to myself, and to you, the things I'd like to achieve in some way before I die.

  • Film. I want to be involved in film somehow. At the moment I'm thinking of starting by writing a few film scripts, some original and some adapted, and I'd like to write them and maybe even have the chance to direct them. I feel that, if you wrote something, you know it so much more intimately.
  • Television. Same as above: I have projects planned that I'd ideally like to write and direct.
  • Music. I want to sing. I want to record music and put it out there even if it's not topping charts and being wildly successful. I want to leave my voice behind in the world when I'm gone. 
  • Publishing. At the moment I'd really like to gain some experience in the world of publishing, even if it's just a six month paid internship or something. I feel that I'd gain some invaluable experience.
  • Writing. First and foremost I want to be a writer. I want to finish a novel soon and I want to have several books published before I die. 
  • Family. I want to get married. I want to move into a nice house with my partner and have some children. I want to be a parent.
  • Theatre. I'd love to act again - even in just one show.
    Travel. I want to travel. I want to write as I travel. I want to write about travel. I want to find myself in new corners of the world. I want to take photographs of sunny places.
    Art. I'm not the best when it comes to art but I appreciate art. I want to create art of my own even if it's not the best. Maybe it will be performance art or a sculpture or a painting... Who knows?
I suppose this shows that I'm really dedicated to the arts and, before death, want to pursue my interests in many different art forms. 

Wednesday, 23 July 2014

THE ULTIMATE BRITISH SUMMER TO DO LIST!

So Starbucks have put together what they feel is THE ULTIMATE BRITISH SUMMER TO DO LIST. It includes things like going to music festivals, eating strawberries and cream and building sandcastles. The post is written out like a check list so you can go through and check off the things you've done so far. I've done quite a few of them so far, actually.

Now Summer is only just kicking off (not a World Cup reference, I swear) and there's plenty of time to tick things off of your list. Do you think this is a good list? What sort of things are you hoping to do over the summer?

I think my summer to do list is fairly simple:
  • Write and work towards completion of novel
  • Work on pilot of original TV show that I am writing
  • Read LOTS OF BOOKS!
  • See LOTS OF FILMS!
  • Spend ALL THE TIME WITH MY LOVED ONES!
Is there anything on the Starbucks list you'll be doing this summer?

Tuesday, 1 July 2014

Silver Linings Search: June

Once more, I sit down and cast my mind back over the past month to think about all of the nice things that have happened to me this past month.
It was pretty crappy in some ways after one of my cats fell seriously ill and had to be put down. That said, my mission in doing this is to remind myself that good stuff still happens, despite the bad stuff happening. That's why it's so important to keep doing this: so all the positive things don't get lost. So I've rounded up some little nuggets of good that popped up this past month:


  • Hannah, Julia and I took part in The Great Contiki Challenge 2014 and did pretty darn well, actually. Not enough to win, of course, but we did well. It made for a really fun day and an after party with free pizza and beer. 
  • I won another competition at work and came home with £30 worth of vouchers. Oops!
  • I landed a job interview way about my punching weight for a law firm. Even though I was up against applicants with actual law degrees it was really cool that they considered me and still actually really wanted to interview me. 
  • I went shopping and bought some gorgeous new clothes which make me feel fab. I've still not had the courage to wear them yet. They're too precious <3
  • I've had a lot of lovely, relaxing days with my partner. 
  • I've had the opportunity to spend some quality time with my sister.
  • I also bought some goodies from Lush Cosmetics to pamper myself
  • I hosted an event called Harpicide in London with Elly McCabe, Julia Mascetti and Julia Gray which was great.
  • I got a bit of writing done. Here's hoping that CampNaNoWriMo in July might take off a little.
  • The sun came out a great deal! The world feels warm, at least here it does.
  • I've lost quite a bit of weight. I'm eating healthy and my body is thanking me for it.
  • My partner surprised me with a ticket to Calling Festival to go see Aerosmith. She pulled some strings to get that ticket and absolutely amazed me with her thoughtfulness and generosity.
  • Then there was the gig itself... Aerosmith were absolutely amazing and the festival vibe as they played was great. I had a great time. 
  • I saw lots of good films.
  • My team and I are currently in the lead for a different work competition.

Sunday, 29 June 2014

100 Happy Days

So I recently have seen a trend going about via the hashtag #100HappyDays and decided to look into it.
I found that the premise is just that simple: the idea is to try and be happy for 100 days. Sort of.
It's not easy to just be happy especially if you're living with depression or anxiety or living through difficult circumstances. I suppose the idea is to try and find something in the day that you're grateful for or something small that makes you happy. It's basically the same thing that I've been doing all year with my Silver Linings Search challenge.

The idea is to find things in your day that make you happy, take a photograph that represents that happiness and post it onto social media. It seems like a pretty nice idea if you're willing to commit to 100 days of social networking. Do you think it's something you could do?

Some may see this as just another excuse to take selfies. So what? If someone is trying to tap into their own happiness and positivity, let it be.

Monday, 23 June 2014

Motivational Mondays: Love Is Lovely

Lately I've realised just how lucky I am for my partner. She really cares for me. The other day when I got in from work, she'd taken the time to run me a bath with a glass of chilled cava and a slice of pizza waiting for me. She'll rub my back if I'm sore from work and always has my corner.

Sometimes I think it's easy to forget the ones we love when we have so many other commitments but it's really important to carve out time for the people you love: to care for them, to make them feel special.  It's important to show people you love them when they go to great lengths to show their love to you.

Monday, 16 June 2014

Motivational Monday: Love Who You Love

So I know the theme of our last Motivational Monday was all about loving yourself but today it is about the importance of loving others. Today we need to remember the importance of our love for others.

Other people add colour and variety into our lives. They bring excitement, adventure and comfort. We establish bonds with them. It's important to find at least one person in this world whom you love. This can be in a romantic way or a platonic way. Maybe it's a family member of a pet. Find someone who makes you happy and remember to make them happy too. Do something nice for them to remind them that they are loved. Go out and spread some love and positivity. Who knows: maybe the love and positivity will come back to you somehow.

Monday, 9 June 2014

Motivational Monday: Love Yourself

When searching for happiness and motivation there is often one person at the centre of such attention: you. I think it's important not to simply accept the person that we are, but to love that person also. If you're not the kind of person that you can love, why not? What can you change to make yourself more worthy of that love? How can you show yourself love? Is it in little acts of care or ways in which you treat yourself? Is it in the respect you show your body or the routine you follow?

Make sure to make time for yourself to do the things you want to do so you can get what you want. Make time to go on quiet walks or have long bubble baths or write your novel. Make sure to wear what makes you feel comfy or do things that make you feel good. Re-evaluate how you view yourself and remember that you're worthy of love from others and from yourself.

Sunday, 1 June 2014

Silver Linings Search: May


I've been doing this for a few months now so if you're a regular reader then you'll be familiar with this. Essentially I just note down good things that happened through the month to remind myself that good things do happen, even if they're little. It's always important to not let the good be overshadowed by the bad. It's so strange to think we're almost half way through the year. The month was quite stressful but I've tried to find silver linings amongst the stress.

So here goes, some good things from the month of May:
  • I went to Thorpe Park with my colleagues from work. We earned this day out from our superb sales over Christmas so technically it was our work day out. The company paid for everything and it was a really fun day out. I think that my favourite rides were probably Colossus and Tidal Wave. We got absolutely soaked. 
  • One morning I woke up, went downstairs and found a cat in my kitchen. It was not one of our cats. It was a cat belonging to a neighbour. Whenever I've seen this cat before it has run away. When the cat was in my house it was calm and affectionate so I got lots of cuddles and a nice surprise kitty friend. 
  • I worked a lot of hours. In fact I worked until I was sore from being up on my feet. I worked until I was tired and void of any remaining energy. That said, I earned a lot of money and boosted the company sales numbers.
  • I finally spoke to one of my managers about some of the shit that goes on at work. I don't think that the management team realised what was even going on. I was the only person to speak up and break the silence and soon, others began to follow. Everyone had been to anxious to speak up so hopefully this will bring about some positive change.
  • I landed a job interview. It's the first interview since I got my current job so I'm a little rusty. I've only really just started looking for a new job. I'll miss the perks of my current job when I leave but I really need something with better pay and more sociable hours.
  • Sorry to be crude but... I earned a lot of money this month, even after taxes. Sure, most of that money goes straight into a savings account for the future but still, I earned more than I'd estimated. That's mostly money that has been put away into my savings account for the future. That money could go towards something big one day like a mortgage down payment. I's rather exciting.
  • I won another little competition at work. First, I won a prize, a pretty notebook. Then I got to choose a forfeit for my colleagues and made them speak in bad American accents for the rest of the day. Safe to say it was hilarious. 
  • I got quite a bit of writing done on a new novel.
  • I finally dyed my roots. I'd put it off for ages and ages and man did my hair look good all blonde again.
  • My partner and I went on some nice dates. On one, we went back to this nice field/outdoor area where we used to hang out before we started dating. It's where we shared our first kiss. It was really nice and we had the opportunity to just relax in the sunshine, reading books and sunbathing. I feel like our relationship this month grew and became stronger than ever.
  • I explained the plot of the novel I'm working on to my partner. I'm usually very, very secretive about what I am writing until it's completed but I opened up, explained the plot and my partner was honestly excited and full of praise which made me feel very comfortable and excited about my project.
  • I met up with old friends to catch up and have fun in the sun.
  • Just the sun... in general. The sun makes me happier. The sun is what makes a silver lining. 
  • I got tan lines! I mean, I went to Greece last year and didn't get a tan because I was so scared of getting sun burn. One weekend in my back garden and I had strap lines on my back from my little tan glow. 
  • The little pepper plants that I potted are growing strong. I can't wait to eat something I've grown from just a seed.
  • I started writing poetry again. By 2015 I want to have a poetry book completed. I'm making good progress. 
  • I thought of a new script writing project I'd like to do in the future and took the first step towards actually achieving it. 
  • In recent competitions at work I won a whole bunch of vouchers and this month I had a lot of fun going out and spending those vouchers. I took £20 worth of vouchers this month and bought three awesome books. I liked taking home books that I didn't have to spend a penny for. I earned those books through hard work and hard sales. 

Friday, 23 May 2014

Francisco, you have my gratitude.

It's always important to remember the little things.
Those small blessings, those random acts of kindness, little things can make all the difference.
Yesterday a stranger showed me a little bit of kindness and it made my day much brighter.

I went outside to wait for the bus. I often go out for the bus way early because the bus service in my town is unreliable. Sometimes it comes way early, sometimes it comes way late. It's best to go out early. Of course, I went outside early and within minutes I was caught in the middle of a thunderstorm. The rain was heavy and there was thunder and lightning. It was scary. The horse in the field across from the bus stop came over. She seemed a little distressed by the weather and her owners weren't back home yet to secure her into her paddock. I stood with her as she came over for a cuddle and we waited together.

I got onto the bus when it arrived, late as usual. I had a £20 note to pay for the bus. The only problem was that it was a Scottish £20 note. In the UK it is legal tender and you can use it in England as currency. The bus driver, however, turned around and said that he would not accept it. I told him that other bus drivers have accepted it, that it was legal tender, that I had money for the bus like any other paying customer and the fault lay with him if he chose not to accept it. At this point he tried to tell me to get off of the bus. I explained that I had to get to work. I'd waited in the rain and thunder for about 20 minutes and that I had money for the bus. Everything was prepared. I explained that I'd run around looking for change around the house and that the £20 note was literally all that I had. He started driving saying that he'd drop me off at this little petrol station in the middle of nowhere and leave me to work out what to do. I explained that this would make me late for work. He was really rude saying that he didn't accept that money. I wondered if, since he is Greek, he hadn't encountered them before. I didn't want to be late for work because the next bus was an hour away.

Then a passenger stood up, walked over to the driver, and asked how much my fare was so that he could pay it. I instantly told him that I could not accept such generosity but he insisted. He said that, if he were in that situation, he'd hope that someone would offer to help. He was a pilot coming from the airport. His shiny name badge said "Francisco" and he and I paid for the fare together in the few pennies that we had. As I followed him back to the bus seats I asked if there was anything that I could do to repay him and he said that he just likes doing good deeds. He said he thought such acts make the world a better place.

By the time I got off of the bus, the clouds were passing and the sun was shining a little bit more. I was so thankful for this kind stranger and it reminded me how important it is to do nice things for your fellow human beings. Dear reader, when you're out and about over the next week, do nice things for people around you. Hold doors open for people, offer to help people in need and say nice things to strangers. You so often forget how much little things like that can really mean to someone.

Thursday, 8 May 2014

7 Trips To Take By Yourself

So I just watched this video and suddenly feel so uplifted.
The video, entitled '7 Trips You Should Take Alone', discusses ways to travel all by yourself and still have fun. It reminds us that travel is about experiencing things and that you don't need friends to accompany you.
If you want to travel, just go.


Saturday, 19 April 2014

One Year of HuffPost!

It is now officially a year since my first Huffington Post blog went live on their website and I must say that I am so pleased and so proud to be a part of such a wonderful website.
Having applied after finding success on this blog I was sure I wouldn't even be considered but after striking up conversation (mainly about Game of Thrones) with an editor it just... happened. I've been blogging ever since. Nothing makes me happier than seeing someone tweeting or sharing my blog posts. In 2013 someone even used one of my articles in a Twitter argument to justify their opinion. It was pretty rad.

Monday, 7 April 2014

Motivational Monday: Find The Thing That Fulfils You.

As I write this my cat, Wednesday, has been curled up and sleeping on my lap for about ten minutes. That may not seem like a big deal but to me, and to her, it is. Wednesday was a rescue cat and had a very bad start in life. I've made it my personal mission over the past three years to make her feel safe and cared for. When we got her she wouldn't accept cuddles. She would rip your hands to ribbons if you tried to pick her up. The fact that she's able to sleep soundly in my lap demonstrates a high level of trust that has taken years to build up. Every time she comes over for a cuddle like this, I find myself filled with pride. Little things like this honestly make me feel that life is truly worth living. It is important to find the things in life that make us feel fulfilled, like life is worthwhile. What makes you feel proud of yourself? What makes you feel like you're doing some good?